Valentine’s Day is just around the corner, the shops are bursting with pink and red love hearts and romance paraphernalia. And HERE YOU ARE. Your relationship has ended, you’re divorced, separated, or maybe you’ve just ended a long-term relationship, you’re single again for the first time in years and you’re thinking to yourself – Could I be ready to love again?

You might already be out there in search of Mr. or Ms. Right, but this time around, you want to make sure you do it Right. The problem is the dating world is completely different from the last time you were single, and you can’t help thinking: What kind of person is right for me…? Am I too old to start again…? How do I trust someone again after having my heart broken…? How do I find someone that’s truly right for me…? If the break up has knocked your confidence you might even be thinking Will anybody want me?

It’s possible you may fear rejection; feel shy, hopeless, or even unlovable. You might still have feelings of grief or loss for the relationship that’s ended or you may still be feeling angry or bitter.

Beyond these initial emotions you may be thinking Where can I find quality people to date…? How do I know if I’m really ready…? You might worry about how and where to meet someone new if you’re always working and have the kids and if you do find someone how will your family react to a new partner, and how can you avoid repeating the same mistakes from your last relationship or previous marriage. Arrghhhhh!!

It can be overwhelming, I know. Believe me, I understand. I’ve heard the same concerns and fears many, many times from clients. I’ve even had those fears myself.

Would you like to find a happy, healthy, fulfilling love this time? The kind of love that you’ve always dreamed of?

Finding love again—and more specifically, finding the right love—is 100% possible.

There are plenty of dating guides that will help you grab someone’s attention, turn a few heads, and fill your calendar with dates, but this time it isn’t about finding “just anyone” and hoping that it all works out. This time it needs to be about finding true love from the inside out: discovering what your perfect partner is like and finding the person you’ll love to be around forever. The person you’ll grow old with.

You may not know who is right for you yet. You deserve to find love and you will find love but finding the right person is not about the right outfit, the right restaurant for a first date, or waiting three days after the date to call. It’s about looking inside of yourself, and rebuilding “you” from the inside out. Take your time doing this. Only after you really know yourself—and how a partner should complement the “real” you—will you truly know if someone is right for you.

By changing the focus to you, you are actually in control of finding your special someone.

By rebuilding yourself from the inside out and identifying who is right for you, you’ll also be making changes that will allow you to have a healthy relationship with your new partner. Just being “in a relationship” isn’t enough. A mediocre relationship (or staying in an unhappy romantic relationship) can actually make you physically unhealthier. One study found that unhappy relationships increase your chances of becoming ill by 35%. Studies also support the idea that negative relationships cause greater physical wear and tear on the body.

Positive relationships, on the other hand, contribute to good health. Love and intimacy can alleviate headaches, improve your immune system, help you to heal faster from wounds and injuries, strengthen your heart and respiratory system, and lower your blood pressure.

If your previous marriage or relationship was unhappy (or if you’re in an unhappy relationship right now), that’s all the more reason for your next relationship to be the right one. I have strategies and methods that will help you to find love again and to allow your new relationship to thrive, grow, and benefit you and your partner.
When you are in a loving relationship, the whole world looks more positive and you feel more confident. A happy relationship makes you feel better about yourself, and this optimism and confidence motivate you to take better care of yourself.

A good relationship is also a stress-buster, because you have someone else to count on for help or support when times get tough. A loving partner can help you deal with your job or other issues. Leading psychologists have shown that when you experience an extremely stressful situation, the mere touch of a loving partner can relieve your anxiety and pain. Believe it or not, your partner doesn’t even have to say a word. Just a quick hug, kiss, or touch will do the trick. Healthy romantic relationships give us the support and encouragement we need to rise to these new and different challenges. Having a partner there, even just to listen to us when we are feeling down or frustrated, is just what we need to get something off our chest and let go of those negative emotions that can fester inside of us.

If you’re ready to love again then get in touch, let me help you find love second time around.