No matter how much it hurts now you will look back in the future and realise that your struggles changed your life for the better.
It may seem impossible to get your head around but it’s true. You may be feeling heartbroken, betrayed and devastated right now but given time you will look back and realise that although it was terrible it forced you to make changes which have worked out to be better than ever.
With hindsight you will see that the person who broke your heart wasn’t really the right person for you. If they were they would still be with you.
Your break up may encourage you to try new things. New hobbies, new friends, new experiences that you would never have tried had you stayed with your ex.
The expression whatever doesn’t kill you makes you stronger is so true. You may develop a greater sense of wisdom, strength and understanding that you wouldn’t have developed had you stayed in a humdrum marriage. Sometimes the bad things that happen in our lives put us directly on the path to the best things that will ever happen to us. Getting divorced is horrible but being divorced isn’t.
I know I’ve definitely learnt new skills that I never would have learnt had I stayed married. I’m a thousand times stronger than I was. Emotionally, physically and spiritually.
I have seen many clients who thought their life was completely over because their ex no longer wanted to be with them. They truly felt that they would never be happy again. That they were unlovable, insignificant and worthless. But after a period of healing and with the right kind of support they started to feel better and brighter and they broadened their horizons and got out more and made new friends and new relationships and now wouldn’t have their ex back for all the tea in China!
The way forward is to take baby steps. Don’t try to take on too much all at once. A divorce can be an incredibly painful experience.
- You’ve lost someone you once loved or maybe still love.
- You’ve lost dreams for the future.
- You’ve lost an intact family.
- You feel as if you have failed.
You really do need that period of healing. It might feel like your heart is broken but hearts are incredibly resilient and they mend beautifully!
It makes a huge difference if you’re around the right people whilst you’re healing. It’s time to give those bitter, negative friends a wide berth and also the friends who encourage you to get back on your horse by sleeping with everyone in sight. That’s not really going to help.
Once you start to heal you can see that:
- You have the opportunity to reinvent yourself and attract a new, better person to love or just be happy enjoying your own company.
- You can have bigger, better dreams than you ever thought possible, without having to compromise in any way.
- You can create a new family – you’re relationship with your children can really flourish.
- You haven’t failed at all; you’ve just taken a new path.
If you need help to see the positive in your future then get in touch today. The devastation doesn’t last forever I promise. We’ll soon have you smiling again.