Are you a man in an abusive relationship?
Anger and conflict can be a part of any relationship, but what if things get out of hand? What if your partner gets so angry that things turn abusive and/or violent? What could be considered normal behaviour in a relationship and what is abusive?
No matter how much it hurts now you will look back in the future and realise that your struggles changed your life for the better.
It may seem impossible to get your head around but it’s true. You may be feeling heartbroken, betrayed and devastated right now but given time you will look back and realise that although it was terrible it forced you to make changes which have worked out to be better than ever.
The end of another year is fast approaching and you’re feeling unhappy. You feel trapped in limbo. Your relationship is not meeting your needs and the grass is starting to look greener on the other side of the fence. You feel as if you are on the brink of ending your marriage because you can’t live another year like the last one.
Are you struggling to move forward in your life? Are you still plagued by what your ex is up to? Do you spend too much time thinking about what might have been rather than what is?
So you have decided to end your marriage? Surely you have good enough reasons for this important decision, but explaining that to your children might be one of the hardest things you will ever do. If you have ever heard of “The Butterfly Effect” (not the film), this would be the prime example of it. This situation and how you handle it will affect your children’s lives way beyond childhood. It is the early experiences that mould their character and shape their perception of the world around them.
Getting divorced can be a challenging and painful experience, but it can also be an empowering one that provides you with a greater knowledge of yourself and your strengths and abilities.
Rather than seeing your divorce as a failure, you should try to see it as a life experience which can provide you with important lessons. If taken advantage of, these life lessons can allow you to live your life more authentically as a better more evolved version of yourself.
Are you contemplating your first holiday alone after your divorce? Or a holiday with your children but without your spouse for the first time?
This can seem a bit daunting, especially if you’ve been in a long marriage/relationship and not used to going it alone.
What if your spouse always made the arrangements and you don’t know where to start?
After a bitter and painful break up, most of us analyse what we could have done differently during the relationship. The desire to figure out what went wrong is healthy and helps our growth in the long run, but letting your imagination run wild while coming up with reasons why your ex left, is not.
“When you haven’t forgiven those who’ve hurt you, you turn your back against your future. When you do forgive, you start walking forward”. Tyler Perry
When a person is head over heels in love, happy chemicals, like dopamine and serotonin are produced in the brain. But when the relationship ends, the brain abruptly stops churning out these chemicals. The result: feelings of withdrawal and despair, comparable to what happens when someone stops using drugs or alcohol.